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Instead of searching for ((One of these days,
a perfect person to fit into rename this node
my conception of a perfect PRETTY_POLY, maybe.))
standard monogamous relationship,
maybe it would make more sense
to think about different structures?
Instead of counting on one person
for everything, why not settle for
a little bit of what you need Of course, non-conventional
from different people? structures pre-supposes
there are some non-conventional
There's one conventional route people around to fit into them,
to this: A standard monogamous and they aren't likely to be
sexual relationship (herein called all that easy to find, either.
"love") and some less intense, non-
sexual relationships (herein called So this is all academic?
"freindship"). Perhaps a bit utopian.
Sometimes it seems like you're not
really allowed to do even this.
Your love gets nervous if you put
too much time in with your friends.
The other popular type of
relationship is bogus
monogamy: various reports
claim about half of the
married folks in the US One version of this factoid
have commited adultery. has it that it's men, 60%
And that's just a and women, 40%.
statistical snap shot: it
can't include people Women clearly don't
who've only been married get out enough.
a week and haven't had
time to cheat.
(There are newer
Obvious question: why not just versions of these
be honest about the fact that factoids with
you have an "open relationship"? lower numbers.
I wouldn't trust
the new ones, either.)
possible arrangements: Examine:
POLYANDRY Various real utopian experiments.
Polygyny 19th century free love debate.
I've written about some of this
"But in her dreams, when she had no control over
her thoughts her position appeared to her in all
its shocking nakedness. One dream she had almost
every night. She dreamt that both at once were
her husbands, and lavished their caresses on
her. Alexey Alexandrovich wept, kissing her
hands, saying: 'How beautiful it is now!' and
Alexey Vronsky was there too, and he also was her
husband. And she was surprised that formerly
this had seemed impossible to her, and laughingly
explained to them how much simpler it really was,
and that they were both now contented and happy.
But this dream weighed on her like a nightmare,
and she woke from it filled with horror."
pII, ch XII, p136
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