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DIFFICULT_LOVE

                                             July  8, 2009
                                             July 25, 2013

                                          http://wiki.dandascalescu.com/

   Skipping around in Dan Dascalescu's pages,
   I find he seems to be an advocate of two positions:

      (a) to be successful at doing something,
          it must be something you love to do.            The Peters
                                                          Principle?
      (b) successful people have the knack of
          working on things even when they don't
          feel like it.

   This seeming contradiction could just be
   resolved by specifying the scale each point
   applies to: the over-arching project must be
   something you really want to see happen, even
   though inevitably there will be many small
   pieces of it that you dislike working on.


                                            Then of course, there's the
                                            small matter of determining
                                            when all the "little things
                                            you'd rather not do" are so
                                            numerous, they are in fact
                                            dominant--

   More interesting, I would
   say, is the complexities
   of love in general.
                                                         CLIMBING
   I like the example of rock
   climbing, where you might
   push yourself to do something    Do I "love" rock climbing?  I
   extremely stenuous, sometimes    frequently curse and scream all
   even dangerous, even though      the way up; when I don't fail and
   there's no obvious pay off       give up, going home with wounded
   involved.                        pride and skinned knuckles.

                                                              Another example
              One might love achievement,                     might be BDSM
              and hence welcome challenges,                   activity, which
              such as overcoming things                       can have similar
              you dislike doing.                              characteristics.




                       The presumption that one must
                       "find what you love" presumes
                       that "you" are a fixed quantity;
                       and that the problem is just a
                       search.

                          It could be that the real
                          problem is that you must
                          first transform yourself
                          into someone that can           THINK_YOU_ARE
                          love doing something...




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