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NORMAL_PERVERSION

                                              November 19-26, 2005

Sexual practices have a way of
changing their classification
over time. Different things go
in-and-out of style; people's                (Heh.)
attitudes toward practices 
shift; and the acts symbolise
other things than they used to.

There's a peculiar amnesia that         
kicks in after-the-fact: people      Even in extremely obvious    
seem to like to believe that         changes, like the change    
what's normal now has always         in attitudes toward      
been normal.                         pre-marital sex and            
                                     divorce that came in with
                                     the "Sexual Revolution"       
   Possibly this is a side           of the sixties, you can  
   effect of the need to             find a certain convenient
   believe that sexual               forgetfulness.           
   behavior is animalistic.                        
                                        The conservative take is that
   We like the idea that it's           everything about the sixities
   biologically determined.             was a disaster.
                                
                                        If your position is that
           ANIMAL                       social experiments are
                                        always misguided, you don't
                                        like to be reminded that
                                        the status quo is a social
                                        experiment of yesteryear.
 
                                                                 Particularly 
For example, around the time                                     when folks 
that I was a teenager (the                                       like Reagan 
1970s) I think "oral sex" was    In Delany's "1984", he          and Limbaugh 
doing a transition from a        describes something he          have been 
nasty perversion to a "normal    noticed in his                  divorced. 
sexual practice".                (extensive) experience             
                                 of hanging around in            And most of 
   Which doesn't mean            porn movie theaters --          your core 
   that there was                in the early 80s,               constituency 
   necessarily a huge            cunnilingus went from           is busy 
   change in actual              being something that            collecting 
   behavior, though              produced embarrassed            trophy wives. 
   there *might* have            laughter to the                
   been.                         standard warm-up.     
                                                      
       In the dance of                         
       attitude and action               Delany credits porn   
       it can be hard to                 movies themselves with
       say who made the                  creating this change  
       first move.                       in the definition of         
                                         the normal.                     
                                                                       
                                              And it could be that     
                                              increasingly easy    
                                              access to pornography
                                              is producing further           
       Another interesting                    changes.             
       thing, though, is                                           
       the perversions                             Much to the                 
       that don't click                            consternation   
       over to "normal",                           of some...   
       despite an upswing                                                      
       in popularity.                                  PORNFRIED 
                                                                       
       Bondage practices became                                       
       very widespread by the                                           
       close of the 80s; something                                   
       that everyone did or at                                   
       least tried, or at least                          
       was thinking about trying. 
       A trendy perversion.                    
          
       It's entirely possible to         
       have a practice practiced         
       by nearly everyone and for                                 
       it to still be classified                                       
       as a "perversion" that no           And isn't it interesting       
       one admits to in public.            that there's now a standard
                                           set of fetishes that       
                                           go under the heading       
  I wonder about the                       of "Fetish"?               
  future of anal sex.                                  
                                               Fetish fashion.
  The anus has gone                            Fashion?
  from untouchable to
  negotiable in the                            This year's fetish.
  space of a few                               The latest fetish.
  decades, with one                                         
  of the later                                             There's another  
  developments being    It's obligatory                    way of looking at  
  the discovery of      to reference the                   "fetish fashion"  
  heterosexual male     "Bend Over                         though: maybe it  
  penetration...        Boyfriend"                         isn't *really*   
                        series of videos                   fashion.  The    
                        put out by Good                    parameters of it  
                        Vibrations.             Or         stay fixed for   
                                                nearly     far longer than  
 A sketch of three futures:                     fixed.     they do with the  
                                                           straight fashion  
 (1) anal sex becomes an "of course"                       world.           
 item.  Refusal to engage in it (at                                        
 least in some form) becomes grounds                     The latex jumpsuit
 for counseling -- much as an                            bought years      
 aversion to cunnilingus would now                       ago doesn't         
 be regarded as fairly weird.                            suddenly develop  
                                                         the wrong lapels.   
 (2) anal sex becomes a standard                                              
 perversion.  Something nearly                        Adding something new
 everyone does, but not before                        to the world of         
 the third date.                                      fetish fashion is a 
                                                      strange business of    
 (3) anal sex retreats                                casting about for a    
 slightly and resists                                 new feature that       
 incorporation into the                               hits the embedded   
 mainstream, and becomes                              complexes in just    
 an acknowledged symbol       Much as, say, a         the right way...     
 of strangeness.              black leather           
                              jacket remains a                        
                              fixed symbol of 
                              the outsider... 
                                                    
                              
                                CHASING_THE_MIRAGE 
                              
                                HOLY_COATS_OF_BLACK 
  A decade hence, will                                                      
  strap-ons adorn the post 
  of every marriage bed?                                                    
 
      Will anal sex 
      still matter? 
                                                            

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