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FLIRT

It occurs to me I was once disgusted with the
concept of flirtation.

Going through the motions of acting like you
want to sleep with someone, usually without
being serious.

Dancing around the topic.

Delaying/Hiding from the decision?

Stalling?

What purpose is there to it, except for
some kind of twisted game of deception
or evasion?

"No, I'm not really interested in adultery.
We're only flirting."

"I'm sorry, I didn't mean to lead you on.
I was just flirting."

I really disliked the idea,
in part because I figured I
was horrible at it, because
I usually cared too much to
be able to think fast enough
to pull it off.

In fact, I suspected that that
was one of the functions of
flirtation, to screen out the
"desperate", i.e. to select for
people who don't really care.

But these days, I fall in love
much less quickly.

I tend to expect that things
will not work out.

And I find it really
frustrating, dealing with
women who seem incapable
of dealing with men                   (or maybe, just with me?)
on any level.

Far better a woman who
knows how to flirt,                        Maybe, this is a decent
at least you can talk                      example of the problems
to each other for awhile                   with feminist thought
and find out if you're                     of the 70's: by attacking
interested in anything                     all sexual/gender-related
else.                                      behavior at once, you're
                                           left with "consciousness"
And it's certainly better                  and especially self-
than the dreaded invisibility              consciousness raised to
treatment, no?                             the max: but you're
                                           paralyzed.  You have no
                                           alternative customs
                                           you can use to relate
                                           to people.

                                                     NOVELTY_AGAIN

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