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                                                March 12, 2009
                                                April  4, 2009
Let me tell you a bit about
my school days of gym class                   EARLY
traumas, alienation by                        warning
suburban idiocy, and so on.                   in effect.


   I didn't know or care much
   about sports, but I was still
   forced to "play" them, much
   to the disgust of my "team          There's nothing like having
   mates".                             people go into screaming fits
                                       because you "walked" the ball
      There was this one               in basketball when you didn't
      particular guy who was           even know it was in play.
      a recurrent problem--
      who followed me for
      years through the
      magic of the school
      class system-- a black
      guy who was around 6
      feet tall by age 13,
      and was addicted to
      physical intimidation     This routine, for those of
      games                     you who've miraculously
                                avoided this, is to behave in
                                a threatening manner without
                                actually making any threats,
                                and to do your best to provoke
   There was one nice scene     a fight without actually being
   that took place at the       the guy to strike first.
   end of gym class in
   grade school-- the                    Ideally, you do this with
   "teacher" had us all                  a gang backing you up,
   lined up at the end of                surrounding the mark so
   the period, and while he              that they feel trapped.
   was away in his office,
   Mr. Six Foot and his                      A particularly amusing
   admiring crowd came up                    maneuver in the game is
   to me and gave me The                     to act like you've let
   Routine.                                  up and gone away; and
                                             then suddenly come down
      This went on for quite                 hard, just when the
      some time, and yet,                    mark is feeling a sense
      strangely enough, the                  of relief.
      "teacher" never poked
      his head out of the                        (Kind of like Steven
      office to break it up.                     Spielberg's sense of
                                                 pacing.)
         No doubt, this experience
         was intended to build my
         character.

         (It couldn't be that the
         fellow just didn't want             A few years later, I happened to
         to deal with the big scary          see a revealing incident, where
         black kid, could it?)               this kid was acting belligerent
                                             with a music teacher, and then
                                             there was a look of fear on
                                             both sides...  both student
    In retrospect, things would've           and teacher were aware they could
    been a lot easier for me if              end up going somewhere they didn't
    I'd been willing to react                want to go.  When that was obvious
    "correctly", and behave                  to both of them, the teacher
    submissively, displaying an              laughed slightly, and gave the kid
    appropriate amount of fear.              a sad little smile, diffusing the
                                             situation.
    Instead I just sat on it (or
    tried to: I kept talking, but
    neither rolled over with paws
    in the air, nor did I start
    swinging at him).


            On the other hand, it could be that
            things would've been even worse if
            I were actively submissive or
            belligerent...  possibly he was
            leaving me alone most of the time,
            because he wasn't getting quite the
            right responses.



       Around the same time, the movie version
       of "West Side Story" made it to television,
       and the kids were much impressed.  They
       started forming up "gangs" so they could
       play Jets and Sharks.

            I was walking down the
            street one day, when a big
            group of a dozen or so of
            these guys came strutting by.    But no lasting harm
            One of them spit in my face      done, and I suppose
            as they were passing.  They      I'm over all this.
            found this most hilarious.       I haven't fantasized
                                             about killing any of
                                             them for years.
   And there were many other
   fun events involving other                          And after all, what would
   people...                                           be the point of worrying
                                                       about "getting back" at
 A obnoxious fellow who liked to                       Mr. Six?
 do things like play chicken,
 attempting to run me down with                        The odds are pretty good
 his bicycle.                                          that this overdeveloped
                                                       black guy had his life
 Or these two punks who                                ruined by being so close
 evidently decided that    (Should I explain that      to the masculine
 an empty lot was their    they were white punks?      physical ideal...
 territory, and followed   I keep talking about
 me around for half an     the Big Black Kid...)       Much in the same way
 hour, riding me with                                  that women with large
 ominous/obnoxious           Actually, on the          breasts often seem to
 remarks until I picked      subject of "race":        have their lives
 up a chunk of steel         this period (late         seriously messed up
 electrical cable and        60s, early 70s) was       because of it.
 charged at them             characterized by a
 screaming about how I       fear of being accused          You can be
 was going to fucking        "racist", consequently,        sabotaged
 kill them if they didn't    at school, the black           by a natural
 leave me alone.             kids were allowed to           gift.
                             get away with almost
   That one left me          anything. They played            "It's important
   shaking for days          the race card                    not to be
   afterwards.               shamelessly, though              trapped by your
                             where it got them was            minor talents."
      Junior High            exactly nowhere.                   -- Gary Snyder
      School is
      rough on               Had the school system
      pacifists.             actually not been racist,
                             the black kids wouldn't
      An interesting         have been given so much
      bit, while they        latitude: really no one
      were following         cared about them.              RACE_DOWN
      me around:

      One of these guys
      went into a martial
      arts pose, muscles        (Back stance,
      flexed, screaming an      threatening
      angry kiat at the top     to spring off
      of his lungs.             his back leg
                                and do a high
      It was so much like       face kick.)
      a movie I broke out
      laughing.

      He immediately dropped
      the pose, stood up
      straight and said
      "what's so funny!?"



One of the things that was
odd about all this, is
that I probably wasn't
much smaller than Mr. Six
throughout these years.

I never felt
particularly big, but      One of the slightly
looking back on it I       less obnoxious jocks
remember some stray        gave me some kindly
remarks: a math teacher    advice about how I was      What I really needed
(discussing ranges of      strong enough, but          was to get out from
data) mentioned I was      needed to be more           under the thumb of all
the tallest kid in the     "coordinated"...  (He       of these tense
classroom; a friend        recommended rowing.)        domination head games.
watching me hanging by
my arms commented on my
forest of underarm                       It's entirely possible
hair, and so on...  I                    that I was a tempting
was one of the people                    target because I was big
who hit puberty first.                   enough to be a challenge,
                                         but peculiar enough to be
  It's not like I didn't have            socially isolated.
  any athletic skills: I tended
  toward solitary sports of my               I was also peculiar enough to
  own invention, like climbing               refuse to give in, which made
  trees, "tightrope walking"                 for frustrating ecounters on
  across the football goal                   all sides.
  posts, and so on.

       I used to like to go out in
       the school field behind my
       house and throw frisbees
       against the wind, and catch              Messing around on the
       them myself.                             playground one day, I
                                                showed off one of my
       I would to try to                        minor tricks: there was a
       juggle them, to                          tree with a slightly
       see how many I                           angled trunk, and a low
       could keep in the    (Three.             branch at about five feet
       air at once.         And two             up.  I could get up on
                            was hard            that branch without using
                            enough.)            my hands, by getting a
                                                run at the tree first.
  Such an anti-social child.
  Obviously something was wrong with                I became famous among
  me for not wanting to play nicely                 people I didn't know or
  with the other children.                          recognize as "that kid
                                                    who runs up trees".





    Oh, for those
    wonderful school
    days, out in the
    suburban paradise     Us nice suburban kids had no
    of Long Island.       problems with violence or          HULK_JONES
                          anything like that at all.

                              It was just an omnipresent
                              threat hovering over every     THE_MIST
                              move, every remark, year-in
                              and year-out...





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